Getting rid of "things" that have negative emotions attached to them

thoughts or items

Many of us possibly have items in our home or in some of our memories and thoughts that just seem to trigger negative or very uncomfortable emotions. They are like constant reminders of something unpleasant and hurtful that has happened. These things in our life have invisible labels on them....which yells to us “reminder of bad experience”.

When we are so emotionally bogged down and burdened by these things, it has a tendency to halt the incoming good of anything else in our life.


By just getting rid of something that has such negative emotions attached to it and releasing that from our life, might open up other pleasant doors that were previously closed!! Then we can move on.

December is a magnifying glass

Yesterday as I was getting a treatment from my acupuncturist I talked to her about the very difficult December I had (worse than I ever remember), and a lot of other people I know.

She said that yes, December is the month that the sun is at its lowest peak, there is the stress and exhaustion of the extreme busyness that we get caught up in, there is the debt and money problems that is caused by the highly commercialized Christmas, and there is more irritability cause by all of the above. She also said that there are more suicides and murders in December. More people experience depression on this month of the year than with any of the other months.

I heard somewhere lately that Christmas is like looking at your life through a magnifying glass. Everything looms larger. If you are lonely.....you feel even lonelier. If you are sad....you feel even sadder. All our problems seem to be suddenly worse...with the effect they have on us.

So what then is the solution to our NEXT December. Do we want a repeat of what we just went through....or do we find a way to change it? For me....I say simplify, simplify, simplify!!!!. And find a way to expose our self to more light, whether by sitting under full spectrum lighting or sitting in the yard on days when Mr. Sun is out. I also just sit in my car on sunny days maybe when the air was a little chilly. I make sure the sun is shinning on me through the windows.

Busyness Elimination Therapy (or letting things go)

Pure and simple....it is just eliminating, or letting things go from our time schedule. When I start having too many demands on my time and find myself dreading leaving the house all the time to be somewhere that I have a responsibility to be....that is when my body starts short circuiting. Little by little different symptoms begin to appear, showing an effect it is having on my body and nervous system. Some of these symptoms are high stress, feeling overwhelmed, depression, irritability, crying, and dullness of mind. A friend of mine told me that she was concerned because she was having trouble with her memory. When she told me all that she was involved in, I thought no wonder she is having trouble. Her brain and her body was in overload.

There is nothing wrong with eliminating some things from our schedule....we are NOT failures by doing so, and we SHOULD NOT feel guilty for having to do this. It is for our own health and well-being. We are no good to ourselves and to others if we allow our self to get mentally, physically and emotionally ill.

A Mind Retreat...taking your mind somewhere else for awhile so it can relax and heal.

Try to take little mind retreats as often as you need them and for as long (time wise) as you can. This is so good for when you feel overwhelmed with life and even at depressions doorstep. Even more so, when you are rooming in depressions house. Find something you enjoy doing and that will hold your attention without having to think much....even if it is a big time waster. AND DON'T YOU DARE FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT!

The idea is to bring your mind temporarily to a place where it does not have to tax itself by thinking too much. In this way, your mind gets a chance to truly relax, so it can begin to heal a little. But don't forget to come back into the world again!!! You will then be refreshed and strengthened in mind and body, have a better outlook, and be ready to make any necessary eliminations of things to your time schedule, if that is what needs to be done.

My favorite mind retreat is to watch movies. I am truly a MOVIE LOVER. Sometimes I watch one movie right after another and I have been known to do this for a couple of days at a time. But it REALLY works for me. If I don't do this for myself, then my mind keeps dwelling on the problem and I stress myself out more and more and I go deeper and deeper into despair.

My Plate is Full and Spilling Over

Sometimes I take on too many extra responsibilities, and say "yes" to too many things and people. In the beginning it seems to be ok and I can handle everything. But as time goes on I begin to notice all the little, more important things that need to be done and I don't have time to take care of them because of these "other" responsibilities. That is when the stress builds up. Then the stress leads to feelings of being overwhelmed. Then, for me, all that turns into depression and crying and a messed up nervous system I reach a point where I can't handle that pace anymore. I make myself come to a screeching halt, because I have learned the warning signs. It is now time to step back and take stock of my time schedule....and start cutting down on some of the things I am doing. I ask myself what is it that I'm doing that I feel that I am burned out on. I then eliminate those things. For my own mental, physical, and emotional health.....I have to do it!